I am watching what is going on with the boys right now. As I said, Billy has been taken under the wing of our computer tech. This is something he is interested in. You know what makes the darn thing work and how to fix them. I like that idea!!! Could save booko bucks.

Last evening when I went to pick up Billy, Branden decided he wanted to go with. OK, no problem. It seems that this same tech offered to teach Branden a couple years ago about computers. Branden had agreed but nothing was ever done about it as this tech had to fight for his life!! But, last night was the night that Branden had to again tell the tech that he was indeed interested. The only saving grace I see in this is that Branden wants to learn about how to do the graphics for games. This would be completely different from what Billy is learning.

I thinks I am seeing a bit of jealousy developing. No big surprise there. I just have to continue to pray that this tech has the energy and strength from God to follow through with the offers he has made. I do not want to see him put into a situation that will cause him stress or any other evils that can happen to people. He is a very good wonderful man. Yes, he is that good and caring. I wonder if adoption is an idea????

But at this time, life here is not bad. Yes, we have had a couple "small" arguments between the boys. But that is to be expected. Both the boys have apologized to their uncle for their actions. He in return has apologized for getting so upset. All this is good.

So for today we go forward and continue on.
Love you all,
Granny

Posted 11:54Am PDT

Today was a much better day. Billy has been taken the wing of our computer tech. Tomorrow he is going to work with him and even on house calls. Billy, or should I say Will, is very excited. Billy has decided that Billy sounds too immature. Oh well, he has an opportunity to learn a lot from this tech. Not just about computers! This tech is a strong Christian and just became a cancer survivor.

Branden was told that he has to apologize to his uncle and I also expect his uncle to apologize to him!! (Because I'm the Mother, that's why!!!) They were both off the wall!!

Our tech is walking Billy through fixing Branden's computer. That is not only saving money, but it is having Billy take care of his brother. What an approach!! I would have never thought of such an idea. My poor old brain is just about fried trying to come up with ideas to try to reach these two. So, I thankfully except this offer of help with the boys.

So for today anyway life is calm. I like calm!!
Granny

I just do not want all the anger and disrespect in my home. It is not new, but it sure has gotten a lot worse.

Yesterday, all but about four hours of the day, was good. Those two hours were straight from hell. The boys had just gotten home and the youngest noticed that the oldest had taken a bicycle tire off one of his old bikes that he doesn't ride. He started demanding the his brother remove it and give it back. We tired to intervene by telling the younger one that we would gladly get him a brand new tire. No way, we were not going to have to spend our money on a tire when he had one. (The other one on that bile was flat, but that didn't matter).

The two of them ended up in a screaming physical fight in the front yard. I just stepped back and let them have at each other. I thought maybe a good old fashioned fist fight would teach them something. Finally, it broke up and then it went into the house. The oldest started yelling and cussing at us. I knew from experience he was over the edge and out of control. My son tried to make him stop being disrespectful to us. I appreciate the idea of help, but first the problem has to be understood somewhat.

Yes, this young man is chronologically 16 years old, but emotionally he is about 11. He also has emotion problems that he can't control yet, but is working on. Then He has this unreal fear of being hurt. Carry over from childhood abuse?? You bet. So now we have a completely hysterical 16 year old to try to calm. That in it self took another 2 hours. That pretty well ruined the entire evening.

The only good thing that came out of all this, is the youngest has decided that he should go back into counseling so he can work out some of his problems. Let's see, we have anger, depression, self mutilation, disrespect, and denial that his father is a problem for him. These are not new problems, just problems that he has not been willing to face.

I have written all this to say, I am very blessed to have a very caring loving friend that does not just stand by and watch. He is trying to get actively involved with both the boys. He is a wonderful Christian and for that I am totally thankful. I pray God gives him the endurance he needs for his own life and whatever extra for his caring about troubled kids out here where we live.

We are OK, not to worry,
Thanks for listening.
Granny

I may have mentioned that we have 2 goats. They are doing a great job of getting the bushes down on part of our property. But, they do not like to eat grass. Our next door neighbors have a Mama horse and a colt. They like to eat grass. So, today they brought the horses over to romp in our back area and to graze. It is funny because both animals are herd animals, but our goats ran for cover...



They even leave fertilizer behind... Very beautiful and useful animals.

That is my sunny Saturday in Washington.
Granny

Hey gang this is Miss Terri... Just wanted to say see ya before I leave to go home to Everett To those of you that I did not get to talk to you I will hook up with you on the flip side of August...

Sis : Things between me and my brother are ok, they are where they should be. Anthony and Skyler had a ball and want to come back of course!! Branden and Billy are same as always but you gotta love them!!

Abby, my daughter : Please be careful with the babes and I will send you a letter via snail mail in about a week or so. I love you and miss you bunches Granny will let me know how you are doing -- Don't worry she won't bite you!!!

Adam : Sorry that we didn't get to talk but I saw the pics of the boys and OMG are they cute!!! Hope that you and mommy are doing good and that you got my pm a few days ago!! Want to talk with you!!!

Anyways, talk to you all soon!!!! Granny will do the count down as soon as I find out when I get my DSL NO dial-up!!!

Hugs and kisses to ya all,
Miss Terri




Branden-16, Billy-15, Anthony-6, Skyler-2. And there they are...