I am sitting here trying to figure out the answer to a question. Trouble is, I am fairly sure I already know the answer. It is the why I can't understand. As you know we are raising two of our grandsons. Come November it will be 14 years ago we got them. What I can not understand is how and why people can just turn away from them. It keeps happening to them over and over.
In the beginning Mom left Dad within a month of returning back to the area we lived in. She moved back home. That was fun to have a baby in the house again after all the years. Terri was my baby. They youngest of all our kids. So a young happy baby was fun.
It wasn't long before we started having reason to be concerned. Terri discovered that she was pregnant again and she really did not want another baby. After many conversations we convinced her to give the child life and IF she still did not want her second child, we would take him and love him. Billy was born Dec 23rd. She still didn't really care for him anymore than she had to. He bonded with me not her.
No, I am not going through the whole 14 years of history. But why??? How can someone not care about a child. This is something I do not understand.
Then we get to the so called father, Roger. He is what we can honestly call only a sperm donor. I am completely disgusted and disappointed by him. We got him his visitation rights when we went after custody of the boys. We believed they needed to know their parents. What a sad mistake. Roger has been in the boys lives when it was convenient for him, or when he was trying to impress a girl friend.
NO MORE!!! If he never sees them again it will be after I am gone. He has hurt them more than their Mom. He was involved with them, Branden learned who his father really was, not the boyfriend. Billy bonded with him. Then he disappeared for over three years. Then out of the blue, here he was again. He was around and we made him part of the family again, for about 4 years. Now he has again dropped off the face of the map. Good riddens.
My question again... Why??? Can one human being be so selfish and self centered that they can show no love or care for their own children??? Oh, I know that answer. But how???
What started all this?? Billy. He turned against the church over a year ago. He said he was going to be a satanist. Talk about left field!! So I didn't push him, or force him. But we have talked. We have talked a whole bunch. WELL, at the bottom it is that God did not answer his prayer the way he wanted. He wanted "his" mother and "his " father to care about him. So he stopped trying and turn away. Today, I believe he took the first step in turning back around. He told me that he just might start going to church with us again. YAHOO!!!! Prayer are answered.
OK, I am going to stop. I could go on and on about this subject. I just will never understand. Then again, I am not at all sure I want to understand. We have two special young men with very large needs. God gave them to us and we love them.
I'm gone...
Granny
This is my new friend. She lives on my shoulder when I am at home now. I think I have been adopted...
School is almost out, the boys are almost getting alone. Still minor scuffles, but I believe brother do that. We'll see how I am come September!!!
(OK, I'll get off the soapbox.) 
So that is where I am heading. 
