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I have been sitting here going around blogstream reading different posts. Some so wonderful and inspiring that I what to cheer. Others not so happy, and I want to cry for them. So, it seems that we all have our burdens to carry. Isn't it amazing how we all manage to get through our trials and come out stronger? That is what I am seeing.

Tonight my husband made the comment that everything is going to hell in a hand basket around here. Meaning the trouble we are having with the boys. I just looked at him and said, "it sure seems that way since we lost our church". That is the one thing I miss the most. Going to church as a family. I pray and pray for guidance to a good Bible based church. It will come.

I went with Billy to his therapy session yesterday. I got a real eye opener. I was sitting back and just listening and he started talking about things I didn't think he was old enough to remember. What a shock!! But, he is finally letting them come to the surface and dealing with them. He has tried to keep them repressed for so many years. His therapist thinks this is going to take a couple years to get him where he should be, but at least after all these years he is starting. You will never know the hundreds of prayers for this to happen. Praise God. God is good!!!

Going through what I know he has to face is not going to be easy. But I honestly think he can do this now. I think he is finally ready. He is very angry right now, and I am praying that when he gets through he will find peace. That is my pray for him.

Branden is still hibernating in his room. He did mention at dinner that he is completely confused about the project he is suppose to be working on. I already knew that and had told his teach that very thing. Branden has ADHD and can not see a project in small pieces. Just the giant big picture and he just stops, boom. that is where he is at right now. He will not allow any assistance so I can do nothing. So, I guess it will be his consequences. Hard lesson, but that is the way it is going to happen. He has been told repeatedly to just let the teacher know and they will help. But he doesn't.

So this is where I am tonight. I am searching for the peace in the valley.

Hugs to all,
Granny

Posted at 8:12PM PDT
Posted by Granny at 11:12 PM - 18 Comments   Add a Comment  
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You can only offer -

It is hard to see children suffer - esp. when help is offered and rejected...

I am sorry...
 
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by AZRON (PM , CC ) on Tuesday May 13, 2008 @ 11:25 PM




GRanny - prayers will continue for both boys and you. It is so hard when there are so many issues that have brought them struggles along the way - then to have ADHD besides it surely no fun for him or for you. May God give you a sense of peace - even if it is a small piece. Have a restful sleep - june  
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by Praywithhope (PM , CC ) on Tuesday May 13, 2008 @ 11:35 PM




Thank you Ron. So am I.  
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by Granny (PM , CC ) on Tuesday May 13, 2008 @ 11:44 PM




Thank you June. I would love a restful nights sleep.  
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by Granny (PM , CC ) on Tuesday May 13, 2008 @ 11:45 PM




I hope you get that peace very soon!  
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by Miss Lou (PM , CC ) on Wednesday May 14, 2008 @ 2:49 PM




I know that his anger will be directed towards me...I'ts ok if it helps him I will let it flow and maybe some day we shall have the relationship that we should have had long ago...

Branden, on the other hand, should have spoken to his teacher a long time ago to make it easier on him...Can I help???
 
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by Miss Terri (PM , CC ) on Wednesday May 14, 2008 @ 3:22 PM




I have Adhd and did ok in school, I've always finished what I started. I guess I have a little of ocd also. I think that he has to find what works for him, instead of using an excuse not to get things done, he needs to find what works for him, but if you allow him to always use that as an excuse he'll never accomplish anything in life and at this time and age we can't survive without "skillz" (education) that will be more depressing for him in the long run if he has no job, no money, no life, no way to support his family and I'm sure he wants a family as he gets older (gf/bf) someone in his life. Or if he has kids one day, he can't use the ADHD as an excuse not to get things done. Yano? I know for a fact that something has to work for him, and he has to be the one who finds it. (motivation) But seriously if he can play video games and get far in the game skillz he has a way to figure problems out, he has to want too. I was good in school because not being good was not acceptable in my family. There were complications with bad choices, yeah da wonderful rod of discipline among other things. I don't think I'll go that far with my children but, but I'll have to find a way to get through them, somehow.  
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by Flutterfly (PM , CC ) on Wednesday May 14, 2008 @ 3:33 PM




Granny I will send prayers and positive thoughts to you and the family. I am glad he is talking to the therapist. That really is a good sign that he is at least willing to open up. It will help in the long run. As far as the other boy, maybe he is embarrassed to ask his teacher for help because he feels it separates him from the other kids or maybe he is afraid they will make fun of him. Talk to him and see if that is the issue. Maybe something can be worked out with the teacher in a more discreet way so that he can keep his dignity while getting the assistance he needs.

Kids deal with things in their own ways sometimes and unfortunately it can come out as anger and frustration. Keep the communication open and just keep reminding them how much you care and love them and want them to succeed. It's hard being a teenager and I bet it is even harder trying to deal with raising boys in this kind of society we live in today.

Blessings and serenity to you Granny!

Bear Hugs!
PolarB ;)
 
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by PolarB (PM , CC ) on Wednesday May 14, 2008 @ 9:07 PM




Omg what a wonderful and positive person you are! TG4u  
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by Flutterfly (PM , CC ) on Wednesday May 14, 2008 @ 9:50 PM




Thank you Miss Lou. I know it will come, it is just the time between now and then. I was never one to want to wait, even when I was pregnant... Those were the longest months!!!  
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by Granny (PM , CC ) on Wednesday May 14, 2008 @ 11:11 PM




Thanks for popping in Flutterfly. Just to ease your mind, I am not letting him use ADHD as an excuse. He is a very capable student "when he wants to be", he is lazy... I have always jumped in and was able to get him to the finish line so to speak. Well, he is pushing back now so I have just let him have his way. It is his responsibility if he gets a good grade or fails. I just have to let him figure it out as you said. ADHD is not an excuse, it is a condition. You learn to live with it and make the most of it. But I don't have to tell you that. Again thanks for your input. Well spoken.  
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by Granny (PM , CC ) on Wednesday May 14, 2008 @ 11:18 PM




It is not directed only at you. He remembers a LOT more than we thought.  
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by Granny (PM , CC ) on Wednesday May 14, 2008 @ 11:19 PM




I have too many issues for mankind but my greatest gift in life from God above is my mind. The ability to want to learn and reading is my escape.
No matter how hard life is or has been, I've always been able to escape through written word. It opened up a world of hope and took me to places that i would have never known existed. I wish with all my heart that I could give every child in the world, the gift of reading because it will take them to places their minds never thought possible.

Give my love to the boys and a great big hug to you Granny. Lots of love,

H
 
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by MindPower (PM , CC ) on Wednesday May 14, 2008 @ 11:24 PM




Thank you PolarB. Branden claims he has spoken to his teacher. That was one thing that was stated to him in our last MDT meeting with the staff. OK, but he has to at least try. He is doing nothing. His project is not going to do itself!!

As for Billy, I was shocked!!! Yes, the fact that he said that out loud. You have no idea how long I have prayed for a break through for him. Maybe now the long hard road can start getting shorter for him.

Thank you for the prayers and good positive thoughts.
 
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by Granny (PM , CC ) on Wednesday May 14, 2008 @ 11:26 PM




{{{{{Hay}}}}} Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Branden too loves to read. He will spend hours doing it, and I love that. I just wish he would stop wasting his mind. He does have a very good one. Oh well, he will learn that some day.

Bill is the opposite he has a real dislike of reading. He struggles with school very much. But I love them both and that is all there is to that.
 
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by Granny (PM , CC ) on Wednesday May 14, 2008 @ 11:31 PM




I'm the Grandma. What did you expect????  
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by Granny (PM , CC ) on Wednesday May 14, 2008 @ 11:32 PM




You are welcome, Granny. I have watched many of my friends(in foster care) struggle through so much in school. I don't understand it, but I can relate to them in the sense that you feel overwhelmed. There are so many other problems and people don't understand that as a victim/survivor of abuse you have a lot on your plate.

There are sleepless nights, nightmares, bed wetting, memories, body memories, anger, rage, hate, the need to destroy something, the need to understand things that are beyond your years! These things go through our minds on a daily basis, and to add more work or stress to the situation just isn't fair. Yet, we can't go through life dwelling on the past, but if we knew how to fix it we would.

Your boys are so fortunate to have you and Grandpa in their lives. No, they are blessed! I am blessed to have you in my life too. You words might be always looking for solutions in the Lord, but you never hate them as individuals, perhaps their actions at times, but never the child/boy. That really gives me hope in life! I have done many bad things in my life, and now I understand why those people that I have hurt, do not hate me for my actions, but the behavior. It's comforting.
 
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by MindPower (PM , CC ) on Wednesday May 14, 2008 @ 11:36 PM




I have a step son w/ ADHD and I have a hard time getting along w/ him. I think its his age and I know its me too.. I was wondering b/c you have a son w/ ADHD do you have advice, maybe you had a hard time w/ Branden when he was 9 or so and you had a major break through you could help me out with? I will take ANY advice I could get!  
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by Tinkerbitch (PM , CC ) on Wednesday May 14, 2008 @ 11:40 PM


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

   
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